Everyone can say “I love you” but not everyone means it. So believe it when you feel it, not when you hear it.
Is connecting with someone really this complicated, or is it simple and we just make it worse?
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| — | One Tree Hill |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and this year he's going off to college (I'm a junior and he's a senior). Before when we would talk about if we would stay together or not he said that we wouldn't because I couldn't handle it (I have trust issues from things that happened a while ago). I know thats true, but I want to make our relationship work. Today we were talking and he said that he wasn't 100% sure if we were going to break up but we probably would.. should we break up, or..?
AnonymousOf course you shouldn’t! It seems like both of you have faith issues.. and I think one of the most important things that lay the foundation for a relationship is faith and trust. You said that you want to make the relationship work and I think that’s really heartening. Why not just continue the relationship (it’s not gonna be easy of course, but good things don’t come easy) and see how it goes before you break up something so precious even before trying? x
He's already back now. We've been talking almost everyday lately on the most random reason. We caught up as soon as he got back and it feels so nice to know in some ways he thinks of me as someone close to him now. I know I'm a bit pessimistic but I don't know if there's really something there. So I'm going to follow your advise and wait for awhile. Thanks so much! It's really been bothering me nowadays so yea :)
AnonymousYou must be really happy now that he’s back :) I think there’s no need to be pessimistic, but of course, don’t get your hopes and expectations too high up because you’ll only get disappointed that way. Just keep an open mind I guess? Haha :) x
I know that magic between us is still there; it’s just hiding around the corner, and down a street, behind a dumpster, in a cardboard box in the back alley of your heart.
You know what it’s like getting up every morning? Feeling hopeless, feeling like the love of your life is waking up with the wrong man, but at the same time hoping that she still finds happiness, even if it’s never going to be with you.
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| — | Hitch |
They say that missing someone gets easier as the days go by but I just can’t bring myself to agree to that statement. For me, it just gets harder and harder to go on… to pretend that I don’t miss him, to pretend that I don’t care, when in reality… his absence is causing me nothing but pain.
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You gradually get over the pain. It doesn’t go away, not for a long time, but it becomes easier to live with. One morning you wake up and he’s not the first thing on your mind. And then a few months down the line you realize you’ve made it through half the day without thinking of him. Sometimes it takes months, sometimes, years, but eventually you reach a point when you only think about them occasionally. You manage to do this because you don’t see them, you don’t hear about them, you try not to think about them. And then you bump into them walking down the street, or someone unexpected mentions their name… and the memories come flooding back.
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| — | Jane Green |
I’ve always wondered what he thinks of what happened between us. But the question is does he even think about the times we shared? And the even bigger question: does he even care enough to want to remember?
